Love vs Fear

There is an old saying that love heals all - but that is false for many reasons. Love is defined differently for each person so love is not a universal feeling therefore, there is not a universal definition for love. Love is just a perception and its truth is different for each person.

I hear all the time from many of my callers that when a person likes or loves someone that they will......... pursue, respond and verbalize their feelings. I have to say that so many people are afraid when they are in a love relationship and that causes them to be quiet and to just do nothing. Yes! Someone can like you and do nothing about it.

WHY?............
When we say that a person should act a certain way that is our standards and not the universal standard or perception. For a lot of people, love becomes over shadowed by fear. Fear of love, acceptance, being hurt, past traumas,etc. It all comes to the surface when we start to have feelings for someone. The truth is that people do put their feelings first. Love does not conquer all! If a person is afraid, they can sit quiet and analyze for a long time before they express their feelings.

Love is too vulnerable of a feeling for some people. Love does not make the pain of the past disappear. Deciding to heal the past and get rid of the fear is what makes things better.

Remember your definition of love is your perception and please leave room for the person you are interested in to be their self. It will ease the stress of the situation by ending the need to have an expectation met that is not reasonable for the other person to meet.