UNCONDITIONAL LOVE?

Now let's Be Really Honest- Unconditional Love Is Not Obtainable! ACTUALLY UNCONDITIONAL LOVE IS THE WRONG GOAL TO HAVE...

I see it everywhere in the spiritual community. Unconditional love towards everyone and that will solve the problems of the world. Remember the 60"s? Wasn't that the goal unconditional love. A lot of people tried to obtain it and there was still a war, severe drug use, and other issues to tend with. Through trying to obtain unconditional love created more tension. It became "were right and you are wrong". It became about forcing a belief that love is the answer onto other people. It created resistance.

The reason why I am writing this blog because this fantasy of unconditional love is another dishonesty that removes people farther from their true self. People do not even love them selves unconditionally so how can we love everyone else without conditions.

HOW PEOPLE DO NOT LOVE THEIRSELF UNCONDITIONALLY.....

1. Not happy with your looks. You know wanting a little plastic surgery, to lose weight, wear better clothes,etc. That nit picking that we do about ourselves is the farthest that we can get from unconditional love. Yet, we outsource looking for validation that we are worthy through a relationship or hoping that someone will compliment our looks so that we can temporarily feel good about ourselves.

2. When we call ourselves stupid or downplay our intelligence because we are uncomfortable with where we are academically,etc. you know how we constantly call ourselves a failure because we have not achieved all that we desire.

3. Not being grateful and thankful for where we are at today. We are always looking for tomorrow to be that magical day that we will feel better. FEEL BETTER TODAY!

4. Trying to be a perfectionist. When we set up an imaginary standard for ourselves that is no where near being obtainable. Then we are actually shocked when we do not measure up to our definition of perfection.

5. Stating that we can not be happy single. Always looking for love to validate us. We need to look for love once we validate ourselves. Then you will have the perfect love because it is the love that you are vibrating to the universe that you will receive in return. Do not ask someone to tell you that they love you if you are not willing to look in the mirror and tell yourself that you love you.

I could go on and on about how we forget to love ourselves unconditionally. Now I will talk about how it is impossible to love another unconditionally.

Every person has unspoken and spoken terms and conditions that they expect from others. This is the start of conditional love. When we are in a relationship, we have decided how we want to be treated by our partner. When the partner fails to meet our expectations, we fall out of love with that person or we are hurt by them. Well, if you love your partner unconditionally, it would not matter how they treated you, you would not have any expectations and you would love them unconditionally. THAT AIN'T REALITY! We naturally have conditions. Society has conditions on how we should be treated in a relationship. We naturally do not let people walk all over us. That is what unconditional love is. NO BOUNDARIES! People do not live that way and they should not.

A LIST OF OTHER CONDITIONS PEOPLE NATURALLY HAVE....

1. We love our friends and family only if they are treating us well.

2. We like our job as long as we are validated on the job with fair pay or compliments from the boss. No one works for free and puts up with an abusive work situation too long.

3. When people are rude to us, we defend ourselves. Unconditional love means loving the person even as they are abusing you.

4. We do not love pedophiles conditionally or unconditionally.

5. When we are a victim of crime, we do not love our perpetrator.

6. We even get mad at God when we do not get what we want. We even have a conditional relationship with our creator. How lovely. Even God does not receive our unconditional love so how can we give that to a person.

SOLUTION TO UNCONDITIONAL LOVE..............
Work on self acceptance that it just does not matter how we feel about what other people are doing. We even stop caring if people like us.

1.Study Byron Katie's work. She can help you peel off the layers and let you see who you really are. Her work will stop the need to outsource for acceptance.

2.Meditate this will free up the noise in your head. You will get a better perspective of yourself.

3.Accept how you look. ACCEPT YOURSELF PERIOD!

4. Be grateful.

5. Stop trying to fit into a perceived metaphysical perception of how " enlightened " people shouldbehave. There is no gold standard for how a spiritual person should behave. YOU ARE HUMAN FIRST ANDYES YOU HAVE FLAWS! Love those flaws.

6. If you do not like a person. Investigate why. It is usually because there is a part of you that needs to be dealt with and that is ok. You do not have to like anyone but at least you can know why you do not like them.

OFCOURSE BEST TECHNIQUE IS THE MIRACLE THAT CAN REALLY BALANCE YOU EMOTIONALLY, PHYSICALLY AND SPIRITUALLY!